Contemplating The Good, Not The Past, After Divorce

2018-01-10T18:10:30+00:00

“Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrong.” ~ Charlotte Bronte, Writer

Dwelling On The Past

What good does ruminating do, really? What have you gained by replaying over and over again everything that “he” or “they” did to you and your marriage?

Whatever has happened, is done. Continually mulling it over, and wasting your days being upset about it is like a cancer in your heart. Those thoughts are so overtaking, that they don’t leave any room for you to think about the good things in your life. How can you dream and make plans for your future when your mind is constantly dwelling on the past?

Ponder The Good

The fact is, you can’t change the past. No matter how much you think about it or how mad you get about it, the past will not change.

So, whenever you start nursing an animosity, immediately change your thought pattern to something positive. Don’t give yourself the chance to brood. Even if you are tempted to stay in that place of pain, don’t. Switch immediately to a place you love.

Think about your children, your work, your hobbies, your friends, a favorite place, or a special verse in the Bible. Don’t waste another single minute in that place of pain. Life is just too short. You have better things to think about. Start by pondering the good things you can find and create in this very day.  If you keep doing that, the future will take care of itself.

“(Love) is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13: 5 (NIV)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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