“Dignity, in fact, is invariably the mask to assume under difficult circumstances: It is as if nothing can affect you, and you have all the time in the world to respond. This is an extremely powerful pose.” ~ The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green and Joose Elfers
A Good Woman
During my midlife divorce, there were times I did not act with dignity. I let my emotions completely take over, and I acted more like an adolescent, than a self-confident, competent, good woman.
I was so devastated by the fact that my wasband didn’t want me; that I became someone who lost sight of themselves. I was devastated and bitter, and held onto those ugly emotions far too long.
A Better Strategy
Our wasbands are the ones who are acting in wrong and deceitful ways, yet we are the ones who are groveling around, begging them to come back to us. A better strategy would have been to maintain my composure, my dignity and my confidence no matter what ridiculous things my wasband was doing.
I think when we start ranting and raving and begging that they come home, or constantly keep trying to find out what they are doing, that we become weak and pathetic ourselves.
Don’t degrade yourself because he has made the choice to live an ugly, pitiful life. Have confidence in yourself and in God. You are worth infinitely more than all the gold and diamonds in the world. Don’t waste your time on someone who has made destructive choices and hurt so many with his selfish and self-centered actions. It is not your fault; Don’t go there.
Make choices that are good for you; he has made his choice. Now, calmly, confidently and with dignity make yours.
“As for me and my family, we will worship God.” ~ Joshua 24:15b (NIV)