“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” ~ Steven Covey

I’m sort of a political junkie. I love the democratic process. I was one of those who had tears in my eyes watching people who risked their lives to vote in Iraq. Even though the democratic process has always been long and hard to develop, it’s the only system that gives individuals the freedom to decide.

I am unabashedly proud of our country, flaws and all. There are millions of people who want to come here every year. We do good things all over the world. We are a country of laws and rules, and respect for the rights of every man.

Seeing the democratic process in action is amazing. No one storms the polling places with guns and kills to obtain power. Regardless of who you support or who wins the election, we all have the freedom to have our say. Then, when it’s over and done with and we have a new leader, it’s also our responsibility to support him or her regardless of whether we agree or disagree with all of their policies or not.

In midlife divorce recovery, we have the absolute, undeniable power to decide how someone else’s actions will affect us. You have the freedom to say, “act as dumb and as selfishly as you want. You will not destroy me or my life. I have the power to rise above your petty actions.” Don’t give away your power in decisions that affect our country, and don’t give away your power to make your own an incredible victory.

“A wise man has great power, and a man of knowledge increases strength.” ~ Proverbs 24:5 (NIV)