Getting the small things under control is huge. It’s not the disasters that do us in, it’s the messes.
“When something small is right you can then forget about it and think about more lofty ideas. I pay attention to the little things; when they’re right, they shore us up, when they’re wrong, they are a burden.” Alexandra Stoddard in her book Living a Beautiful LIfe
How many of us have a drawer that sticks or a shelf of spices that is an aggravation every time we try to find the oregano? If we fix the little things that cause us irritation, our minds are freed up to think about the bigger issues of life. And we feel more content and at peace. Alexandra Stoddard’s book about “Adding Elegance, Order, Beauty, and Joy to Every Day of Your Life” is a big believer in creating pleasure for all of your senses in even the smallest things we do every day. She contends that our simple daily tasks are so much more pleasant and actually bring comfort and joy if we make them into meaningful pleasurable rituals. “Towels that absorb well, face creams that soothe, napkins that are soft to the touch, matches that light, garbage bags that hold, can openers that open … effective small things that are reassuring …” Today, let’s fix one thing that is an aggravation. Go get a new can opener. Replace that trash can that is held together with duct tape. Buy some hand cream that smells good and feels good when you put it on in the morning. Little things. But important. When we learn how to deal effectively and beautifully with the small things, we have more energy to deal with the big stuff. Making the daily rituals of life pleasant and even sensuous in themselves gives us confidence and power to get all these big issues we’re facing in order, too.
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So, if you have not been trustworthy in handling wordly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?” Luke 16:10-11 (NIV)
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.