Those Who Love Us

2018-01-10T18:10:36+00:00

“I don’t know why I decided to write to you unless it was because I love you so much that I just wanted to tell you.” ~ Grant Goodvin, my brother in a letter (at age 17)

Sometimes, when we are in the middle of a divorce, we forget how many people love us because we are so narrowly focused on the one person who suddenly doesn’t love us anymore. Our other relationships take a backseat as we obsess over the one individual.

Unconditional Support

Well, today is my younger brother’s birthday. Through the entirety of my divorce he (and his whole family) never let me forget how much they loved me. They empowered me spiritually, physically and emotionally.

They helped me move from one house to another, and made it a day of togetherness and celebration. They even stood beside me (literally) in the freezing rain in Wyoming, so I could go fishing while I was grieving.

Embrace Those You Love

I could always count on Grant to give me solid, straightforward answers when I was overwhelmed (even when I was calling him in the middle of the night.) Grant’s calm, comforting voice continually assured me that God was in control and that things would be alright.

Every year during our family trip to Wyoming, Grant and I would walk up to the outdoor chapel and look out at the incredible view of the Snowy Mountain Range as we talked and prayed. His wise words and deep faith brought me comfort and encouragement.

I pray that you have a support system as solid as I did. I urge you to stop obsessing about the one person who says he wants a “different life”. Embrace those friends and family who love you no matter what.

“(True) friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.” ~ Proverbs 17:17 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

One Comment

  1. Kelly April 8, 2017 at 9:18 pm - Reply

    It will be 2 yrs this July that I was threatened to sign the devorse otherwise he would take me to court. All my money went into direct deposit and he took care of all our finance, he knew I couldn’t offord a lawyer and I know now I shouldn’t have buckled. He has completely moved on in another relationship and I’m still in the grieving process of my reality that I’m on my own and feeling lost.

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