“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ~ Ann Landers
Holding Out Hope
I have a feeling that a lot of you are just like me. Your marriage has become unendurable, yet you still don’t want to give up on it. The divorce process has begun, but you are still holding out hope that things may work out.
I was still hoping for a miracle, right up until the moment I signed the papers saying we were officially divorced. Even while sitting in the courtroom, I imagined him walking over to me and saying, “Let’s just go home and work this out.” …But it didn’t happen.
When It’s Time
Everyone on this journey eventually comes to the unfortunate realization that you have to let go. You cannot make your ex stay in a marriage that he is determined to leave.
Once you see clearly that you have exhausted all of your efforts… given him every chance … and have prayed all the prayers you can muster, and he still wants to leave, you will know it is time to move on.
Hope Amidst The Pain
Fully mourn what you have lost. Cry as many tears as it takes. But let me reassure you that God is working even now, in the midst of your sorrow and pain. Your life can absolutely be full of good things again. Good relationships. Good experiences. Good life. Good love all around.
The midlife divorce recovery struggle is not easy. In fact, it will be one of the most difficult things you will face in your lifetime. But when you emerge stronger, more beautiful and more full of joy on the other side, you will understand when I say that your new life can be beyond your wildest dreams. Hold on to it. You, too, will understand how true that statement is someday.
This was so helpful to me. I know i’ve been stuck and not wanting to let go even though the papers have been signed for 3you months now.mow
This is very helpful still in mourning but articles like this give me hope thanks suzy
So sad and difficult.
Suzy… I just want to encourage you to keep on keeping on… God also put a burden on my heart years ago. I led divorce recoveries ( Healing Hearts DR) for 20 years…
Thank you for using your God-gifts to reach out to the many many hurting women!
Suzy… I just want to encourage you to keep on keeping on… God also put a burden on my heart years ago. I led divorce recoveries ( Healing Hearts DR) for 20 years…
Thank you for using your God-given gifts to reach out to the many many hurting women!
I have 2 children that I have raised on my own. I waited until they were grown and gone before I got married. We were very happy together. Our marriage going on for almost 10 years and had some major life changes that completely destroyed it. Been divorced for 2 yrs now and still having a hard time. Once I think Im over it, we seem to end up talking or texting just about every 3 to 6 months. I guess there is always that hope that things would work out. I try not to respond to him but I end up caving in. Sometimes I think I need to pick up and move to another state and change my number just to get over it completely.
Play recently ex-husband and I adopted 9 children together. No 3F grown six are still at home all minor children. My divorce has been the most difficult thing for the children especially period as he literally has moved two blocks away makes himself visible to the children daily for one moment at a time. It refuses to exercise his visitation rights. All I asked was that I live in and they grew up in and one vacation home. He got all the annuities no child support no alimony a house that was paid off. Now he is coming after me for the house we raised our children in and our vacation that the children and I were awarded. I was to get an attorney through legal aid period he made contact with them first and took that attorney from me. I feel overwhelmed but I know that I will make it through this I have six reasons
I went thru a divorce after 27 almost 28 year marriage. three grown children. Im remarried now and very happy. I struggle with my children and my ex ‘s girlfriend. She was part of the divorce. Do you have anything to help in that area ?
So good. This was such and encouragement today!
Divorced now for two years and I’m still struggling and haven’t completely let go. Just when I think I’m doing better I seem to hit another low period and it’s still hard to get back up again. Don’t think I’ll ever be “normal” again.