Divorce Recovery: Loving Ourselves

2018-01-10T18:10:32+00:00

“To become self-reliant, you must trust your own inner nature and love yourself. Then, if the Wizard tells you to bring back the broomstick of the Wicked Witch of the West, you will pay absolutely no attention to that man behind the curtain.” ~ Joey Green, The Zen of Oz

When We Don’t Love Ourselves

Most of the time, we as women don’t really love or trust ourselves very much. We focus on the mistakes we’ve made instead of the things we’ve done right. We beat ourselves up over things we should have done, instead of appreciating all the wise, good things we did do.

We look at magazines and feel fat. We look at business articles and feel left out, or unproductive. We look in the mirror and wish we didn’t see wrinkles. It’s hard to love yourself, when society (and often our wasbands) keep pointing out the things in us that are less-than-perfect.

You Were In God’s Image

We are incredible women with untapped potential, made in the image of God. And those of us who tend to accomplish great things are the women who care more about how they are loving others, than looking for every little flaw in their body or every mistake in judgment. We don’t have to be slaves to our own unreasonable expectations, or to women’s magazines who tell us that we have to do this or that.

Today, let’s just be ourselves. Let’s love God completely and then love ourselves and others like that, too. When we do that every day, we will make choices that give us the future we want. The man behind the curtain is a fake and a fraud, so quit paying any attention to him.

“So he asked, ‘Of all the commandments, which is the most important?’ Jesus replied, ‘The one that says, “‘Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only God. And you must love him with all of your heart and soul and mind and strength. The second is, you must love others as much as yourself.” No other commandments are greater than these.'” ~ Mark 12:28-31 (The Living Bible)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.