Last night I had four conversations scheduled with women from around the country who want to get over their divorces. I finished up close to 10:00 pm. I started in again at 7:00 am taking more calls and giving encouragement. Some were especially worried about the upcoming holidays. With each woman, we talked about the best way to find their way back to hope and happiness. Most got off the phone without making a decision to take that first step to get more help.
But after I hung up the phone on the last conversation this morning, I got another call.
A woman who had reached out to me last year for help, and who had never really followed through on that help, died last night. I am utterly heartbroken. She left children. I can’t seem to stop crying.
I had several conversations with her but she never totally bought into the fact that she really needed help. I think she knew she was struggling, but she thought she could get through it herself. She tried to make it through on her own even though she had friends who were trying to help her, too.
Please, please please call someone if you feel hopeless and alone and feel like you want to give up. Call a friend or a family member or a counselor. Also, you can call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Put that number somewhere if you feel like going on is just not worth the pain.
I have done this long enough that I know the holidays bring additional sadness and discouragement. Please get help, whether it’s from me or from someone else. We have all kinds of things that can get you pointed in the right direction. Don’t try to do this on your own.
If you need to talk about anything at all, don’t hesitate to call. If you don’t call me, call someone.
With love and hope,
Anyone who has been through a divorce they didn’t want knows how difficult it is. But there are literally hundreds of women who have turned the corner and have created lives that are full of joy and passion and all kinds of good things again. We can help you do that even if you think that could never happen to you. It can. So please, please don’t give up. Also be sure to reach out to others who might be struggling.