Warfighting and Divorce


“War is an extreme test of will. Friction, uncertainty, fluidity, disorder and danger are its essential features.”   Warfighting – U.S. Marine Corps

Since I’ve been doing Midlife Divorce Recovery Boot Camps, I’ve been studying the U.S. Marines and their Boot Camps and how they go about preparing young people to face the enemy. I’ve been reading a manual put out by the Marine Corps called Warfighting. This manual talks about the Nature of War, The Theory of War, Preparing for War and The Conduct of War.

I was surprised at all of the similarities between war and life … and war and divorce. The chapter I read last night from which the quote above was taken talks about the essential features of war which are friction, uncertainty, fluidity, disorder and danger. Haven’t you all felt those five things while going through your divorce?

Marines learn to deal with those things. They learn to keep a cool head in spite of danger, uncertainty and disorder all around them. I can’t think of a time when my life was more disordered and uncertain than during my divorce. I’m going to keep reading this manual and learn more about how the Marines learn to handle those things. (Besides killing someone!) I do know a couple of things from previous reading. Marines are in shape physically and they always strive to do the right thing in every circumstance. Let’s put at least those two things in practice today.

Be healthy and Do right. I’ll keep you posted on what else I learn.

“Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your bothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.”

Ephesians 6:11-20 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

One Comment

  1. Patti October 27, 2014 at 3:23 pm - Reply

    I’m 57 & recently divorced. I am having a hard time getting over it. Some of the blogs I’ve read have already helped me on my way to recovery. I’m at the time where I am alone & have a lot of time to think, which is really hard. I did recently buy a house & have been busy with that. I am going to try to find things while I am alone to do (I am house sitting for a friend while they are on vacation) . I look forward to reading more blogs, & will let everyone know how it goes. Thanks!

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