“Focus on what you are moving toward rather than what you are leaving behind.” ~ Alan Cohen

Looking Backward

When the whole divorce process started, I don’t think I realized the full extent of the changes I was about to undergo. When we finally met before the judge and the last papers were signed, the realization that every single aspect of my life was about to change hit me like a freight train.

I was unbelievably heartbroken about everything that I was leaving behind. All I could see lying ahead of me was a life of sorrow, regret, loneliness, and a plethora of other negative emotions.

My mourning period was hard, and it took longer than I thought it should. But I eventually did begin to heal, and I had two choices at that point: keep looking backwards in anguish, or start looking ahead to what my future might hold. 

Rebuilding After Divorce

I looked forward to a future full of people who were honest and true. People who wanted good things for me in the same way I wanted good things for them.

I saw in my future, people who loved me for who I am, and who don’t always make me feel like I’m somehow not quite enough.

I saw the chance to explore some new areas of interest and to see what God had planned for my life. He promises a life beyond our wildest dreams; a good life. A full life.

I challenge you to focus on that promise. That’s what I’m enthusiastically pursuing. And I’m truly excited about what lies ahead!

“I am still not all I should be but I am bringing all my energies to bear on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.” ~ Philippians 4:13 (NIV)