“That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune or defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.” ~ Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

Happiness Amidst Tragedy

When we’re in the middle of the midlife divorce process, often times all we can see is misfortune and defeat. We aren’t looking for opportunity. We think any chance for prosperity and happiness is gone forever. But that is the opposite of the truth.

More long-term happiness and wealth have been created by people who were facing disaster of one kind or another than by any other group of people. Those who create a financially and emotionally abundant life for themselves often started out on the precipice of hopelessness, despair and abject terror.

When we are at the bottom of the pit, the only way is up. And for those of us who refuse to stay in the pit, the up becomes something greater than we ever thought possible.

Choose To Live

At one point after my divorce I thought that if I didn’t get control of myself and my future, I might actually perish of sadness or be resigned to a humdrum, half-life. I realized there was no time in my life for me to whine, blame everyone else or wait around for others to make decisions for me.

We have a choice every single day. A life to live. You can make the choice to settle for mediocrity, and your life will be just that. Or you can say, “Okay, this isn’t exactly what I had planned, but this is what I’ve been dealt. I don’t have to just exist. I can create a life that is exciting, challenging, fulfilling and fun!”

Taking Charge Of Your Financial Future

So, what are we going to do with regard to our finances? The economy is challenging, but that increases opportunity for women who have a fire in their belly to be successful. Economic downturns are always incubators for new ways to do things.

Start with setting your goals and deciding where you want to go. Then create your action plan! My projection is that you will look back and say, “My divorce was the turning point to a new and wildly successful time of my life!” Remember, the choice is yours to make!

“A thief is only there to steal and kill and destroy.  I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of.” ~ John 10:10 (The Message)

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