“Growing as wild women (especially after divorce) involves breaking out of cages, boxes, stereotypes, categories, and captivity. It involves standing tall, laughing loudly, and being who we really are.” SARK – Author of Succulent Wild Woman
Growing is uncomfortable and scary and feels perilous. Especially when someone we love tells us by his actions that we aren’t “good enough,”growing is fraught with fear. But all growth and positive change involves stepping out into the wild unknown. The more we practice being bold and brave, the better we get at courageous, beautiful change.
Even though I didn’t feel like I was in a cage or a box in my marriage, I know that I had certain boundaries that defined who I was. I was Mrs. Someone. Now, after divorce, we have to redefine who we are and what we want in life. And it’s not until we get solidly in our mind that we want to be all God created us to be, that we can actually become that woman.
I loved my role as wife. I wanted to help my wasband. So when he said he didn’t want my help, I was devastated. But I want all of us to learn that as noble and wonderful as helping someone accomplish their dreams was, now it’s time for us to find and flesh out our own dreams.
We were created for something spectacular and some of that has already been accomplished. But now, we can move on to fireworks of our own. Fulfillment of our own. A fabulous future of our own … and we can take whomever we choose with us. Those we love and touch will be pulled along by our excitement and enthusiasm. We will encourage each person we meet to find their own succulence because of our rich, full, life. As SARK says, “We must insist on succulence. Our life is too rich and rare to settle on less.” Start practicing succulence today!
“There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary — we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit! Romans 5:3-6 (The Message)
Have a great wild, succulent weekend! Eat healthy! Get some exercise outside! Get a funny movie and laugh out loud. Round up some kids and take them to a water-park. Just use your magnificent body to do some fun and outrageous. Go to the farmer’s market and pick out some great fresh veggies and go home and put it over pasta and enjoy every single bite!
Part of being RADiCAL is breaking out of things that are not good for us and boldly being the wonderful wild women we are! We’re here to help. Check out www.midlifedivorcerecovery.com or Call us to see how to get started 816-941-4911.