You survived Thanksgiving – now what?


hope“Optimism leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”   Helen Keller

Well, everyone made it through Thanksgiving.  The day ticked away and now it’s over.  Regardless of how much you dreaded it or looked forward to it or endured it, or celebrated it, it’s over.  That’s how life is.  The world keeps turning, a great ball in space regardless of what personal challenges we’re facing.

People all over this big earth faced innumerable challenges yesterday, and many are still facing them today … many much worse than ours … perhaps life threatening.    We know that in almost all of the cases like ours, we survive.  Others around the world (and even in our own little world) may not be so fortunate.  How we each choose to deal with our own personal challenges makes our trip easier or harder.   We can choose to go along with life’s parade with a sense of bold optimism, or we can sit in our room and feel sorry for ourselves.

Hopefully finding things to be thankful for yesterday helped us put things in a little better perspective.  We have hope life will get better.  We can be optimistic that we have the power to achieve what we put our minds to.  That’s an amazing blessing.

I know for many of us, hope and especially confidence are probably in short supply during the early stages of divorce. I went from feeling confident to feeling unsure of myself on just about every level … physically, spiritually, emotionally, sexually, socially and on and on. But remember, those insecurities are just feelings.  They aren’t reality.  For example, a beautiful woman can feel ugly even though in reality she is beautiful.  In the same way, we can feel defeated while in reality we have the power to achieve the amazing accomplishments waiting for us in the future.

So keep in mind you are the same strong, vibrant, beautiful woman you have always been. Now you can start adding things like victorious, indefeatable, resilient to that list. Your life is not hopeless. In fact, at this very moment, you are on the threshold of a journey full of a kinds of good things.

God has a plan for your life and it’s not just a “make-do” or “so-so” kind of life. It is a life beyond your wildest dreams. But to make those dreams reality, begin with hope and confidence. Be confident in your own inner strength that comes from the greatest power in all the universe. Don’t be afraid to hope because that is the beginning of life’s greatest achievements. In the process, joy and peace will find you on their own.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
Romans 15:13

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.